Learning to Say NO
No - this tiny two-letter word often trips us up, doesn’t it? Why is it so hard for us to say no? And sometimes, saying "No" becomes even harder for people with low self-esteem. A person with low self-esteem, often finds it easier to say yes for the reason that it helps them avoid conflict and be at peace. But it also means that they end up taking more than they can handle.
To avoid this, try saying No more often. Saying no can actually make you come across as a more self-assured individual. People will understand that you as a person are well aware of your limits and capabilities. Below are 7 subtle ways to say no to people.
- “I can’t commit to this as I have other priorities at the moment.”
- “Pardon me, but now is not a good time. How about we talk later? Will that be fine with you?”
- “I’d love to do this, but …”
- “Let me think about it first and I’ll get back to you.”
- “This doesn’t meet my needs now but I’ll be sure to keep you in mind.”
- “I may not be the best person to help you out with this. Why don’t you try talking to X, he/she seems to have more expertise in this?”
- “No, I can’t. I am sorry.”
In the end, it’s about how you say no, rather than the act of actually saying it, that is going to decide the outcome. Saying no is just the start.