Women all over the world are finding respect, satisfaction, value, and the necessity to take on leadership roles at work.
The nurturing nature of women is something that workplaces require and what employees respond to. Women have been historically recognized as the nurturers and caregivers of the family unit. When this is extended to the workplace, women can be the catalyst for working together harmoniously rather than being pitted against one another.
The misconception is that women need to be identical to men with regard to leadership styles but in reality, it is the essence of a woman that is needed in today's work environment to function as a whole to one common profitable end.
Sometimes both men and women find it difficult to accept women in leadership roles. This can be due to a variety of reasons but some of the common ones are-
- Stereotyping- ‘Women do not suit male leadership roles'
- There are higher expectations of women when taking on the position of leader. People tend to scrutinize women more intensely than a man with regard to dress, behavior, tone of voice etc and if it is not palatable, negative criticism is sure to follow
- Some men and women find it difficult to follow a woman's leadership because of his/her background and what he/she is accustomed to (where the man is the head of the family and the woman will not contest his word)
Striking a balance between being true to one's femininity and being assertive is something that could propel a woman's leadership capabilities.
Breaking the misconception
The misconception is that being womanly is equivalent to being meek and docile and if a woman were to be assertive she would go against the very nature of who she is. Being assertive is a crucial aspect of effective communication as a leader and more so for women.
Women forget to be assertive in the workplace and tend to retreat into silence when faced with a difficult employee or situation as they could be used to this pattern of functioning at home.
Dear women, please take a stand
At work, if a woman does not learn to speak up and talk confidently about what she believes in, it would be difficult to gain the respect and confidence of her colleagues. It's very important for women to realize that their ideas, opinions, and viewpoints are as important as anyone else's. Assertiveness is being confident about oneself and respecting the opinions and viewpoints of others.
Some key pointers for women to become assertive leaders are-
- Say "no" graciously
- Have an opinion, and express it
- Express your thoughts and not just your feelings
- Structure your time
- Change your mind if you think it's not working
- Make your own decisions
- Make mistakes but forgive yourself
Family or career? We say: Both
Another aspect that hinders the growth of a woman is the belief that if a woman would like to excel at her career, she would have to give up family life. There seems to be this choice that has to be made when a woman holds tenure and reaches a certain level of seniority. Some women decide to back out of leadership roles during major life transitions, fearing that it might jeopardize family life.
Take inspiration from Indra Nooyi
Indra Nooyi, CEO Pepsico, one of the most powerful women in the world, when asked whether it is tough being a mother and a corporate executive, admits that it is difficult, but with a supportive spouse, she manages very well.
She says, "There are times when the stress is so incredible between the office and home- trying to be a wife, mother, daughter-in-law, and corporate executive. "Then you close your eyes and think about a temple-like Tirupati, and suddenly you feel ‘Hey-I can take on the world.'"
Indra Nooyi has accepted the difficulties and challenges of running a family and being a corporate leader and the support of her family and the faith in her religion brings her strength and motivation to succeed. At the end of the day, she feels accomplished knowing she has given her best to both family and work.
We can all learn from Indra Nooyi that through faith in our own sources of strength and serenity we will make time for what we believe is truly important.
Prep for a work-life balance
Following are a few ways that a woman can be in a senior leadership position and at the same time nurture and care for a family.
- Find support and strength from friends and family
- Participate in laying the foundation of your unique family unit... It is from the same solid base from where your children flourish that a wife and a mother can go out and achieve her goals as well.
- Schedule your time well to include time for family and friends
- Discuss expectations from your family and of your family
- Learn to be self-evaluative
- Take breaks from work
- Prepare your family for the late nights at work and other demands of work
- Understand what brings you peace and calm
- Don't be afraid to seek tertiary support such as child care support.
Final words
In order for a woman to be a good leader, it is important that she is also a visionary and can foresee achievable future goals that would benefit her team and the company at large.
This would be accomplished through confidence in her own direction and ideas and the persistence and earnestness to see it through to the end. It is the ability to manage a family that every woman must call upon even at work because it is the unique positive influence a homemaker has that would be very effective at work as well.
